Birth Rape

I recently learned a new term.  Apparently, it’s been tossed around for several years now, but it’s starting to gain more momentum.  Birth Rape.  What is “birth rape” you may ask?  Probably not what you are expecting it to be…

‘Birth rape happens when any medical doctor, nurse or other personnel insert anything into or cut into any part of women in labor, delivering a baby, or after birth against her wishes. Even administering an enema to a laboring mother against her will can be birth rape. Birth rape happens when mothers are laboring and weak and either not able to say “NO,” or sometimes even when she says “Don’t!”

Ignoring the mother’s resistance to or rejection of a method of penetration: injection, enema, forceps, incision, suction, etc. is a crime against a woman’s civil rights of peace, equality and privacy inside the body. Even the medical extraction of placenta after birth is often unnecessary because the nutrient-rich placenta is naturally and spontaneously expelled after the birth, and no hurry is necessary in a normal delivery.

Of course, the well trained medic has “their good reason,” citing the “need” of the patient, all the while causing pain, shock and suffering with their attacks into the body. Medical birth rape is rationalized as “for her own good” and these body invasions can cause painful trauma and long lasting harm to both mother and child.’

source – http://www.naturalnews.com/037357_birth_rape_childbirth_assault.html

Tell me I am misreading this.  Tell me this is not a real thing.  Tell me this is just satire.  Tell me no one actually believes this NONSENSE!  Sadly, it is all too real…

I’m at a loss on this one.  Starting an open discourse on this subject is an utterly daunting task.  I normally like to try to keep my words a bit less mocking and a bit more impartial than I am now; focusing instead on facts and logic to help my readers form their own opinions.  But under the circumstances I just plain don’t know how.  I think this is the best I can muster…

Really?  REALLY???  Is this what we’ve come to now?  Is this really the next wave of politically correct misandry that has been wrapped up with a bow in a neat little package labeled “feminism”?  Forget about true abominations against women (such as young girls being maimed and dying from being forced to undergo “female circumcision” – http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs241/en/).  Why campaign and fight against such horrors when it’s clearly far more important to focus on making it harder for OB-GYNs (doctors who YOU went to for help) to do their job and safely deliver your baby(ies).  (Note the extreme sarcasm.)

Can we just completely forget about the modifier “birth” for a moment and concentrate on the word “rape”?

Merriam-Webster defines rape as: unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconciousness, or deception.”

That sounds pretty cut and dry to me.  That’s certainly how I have always defined rape.  A doctor or medical professional (one that you sought out for treatment and care, no less) performing a standard medical procedure surely does not fit those parameters.  How could it possibly be considered rape unless the doctor touched you in a sexual way that has no medical purpose?

Doesn’t the overt act of going to the hospital to give birth grant your doctors permission to treat you as they deem necessary?  Isn’t that the ENTIRE reason you went to them (as opposed to giving birth at home)!?  Shouldn’t only unnecessary procedures (such as an epidural) supersede the doctor’s judgement?  Are these REALLY questions that need asked?

Even Natural News says:

The best way to avoid birth rape, medical birthing procedures and unnecessary C-sections, is to avoid hospitals for the event of childbirth. Seek out a reputable natural birthing center and experienced midwife. Better yet, have that childbirth at home and invite your midwife to attend.” 

Those words suggest to me that they expect all hospitals to perform standard medical procedures.  They seem to be implying that these procedures not only aren’t medically necessary, but are even harmful to you in some way.  They are basically telling you to trust their medical opinion over the opinion of board certified doctors.

Either that or they are “victim shaming”.  (Isn’t that the popular “feminist” outcry. That it’s “victim shaming” to teach girls how to avoid dangerous situations that increase their odds of getting raped.  That instead we should be teaching boys not to rape.  – Personally, I think we should be teaching BOTH of those things, but what do I know.)

Don’t get me wrong, there are sets of circumstances where a doctor ignoring your wishes are not lawful.  Such as if you DECLINE to be treated by the doctor/hospital (typically a situation caused by someone else bringing you to the hospital when you did not want to go).  Such as forcibly giving you medication that you have indicated you do not want to take.  Such as ignoring a DNR.

Such acts on the doctor’s part could range anywhere from malpractice to assault.  But RAPE!?

It’s ludicrous!  Outrageous!  HARMFUL!!

It demeans and minimizes the trauma and suffering of every woman who has ever legitimately been raped or sexually assaulted.  It desensitizes the word.  Waters it down.  The broader the meaning attached to it, the less seriously people will view it.  Women will become ashamed to open up about their assaults for fear of being judged by these unrealistic standards.

And what a horrible thing to wrongly accuse someone!  It ruins lives.  A person can never fully bounce back from a rape allegation.  Regardless of their conviction status, if follows them for the rest of their life.  And a doctor convicted of this “birth rape” would not only carry the stigma and face jail time… they would NEVER be able to practice medicine again.  One less doctor in the world.

Not to mention, why would ANYONE even want to become a doctor if they are afraid to treat their patients?!  And what would you do without them?  Do you really want to live in a world without doctors?

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At Least She’s Not Trump

I don’t want either Trump or Hillary to be president.  This election season’s candidates are probably the worst since I have come of voting age.  I think most of you feel the same way.  But if forced to choose between the lesser of two evils, it’s a no-brainer…

Hillary is the embodiment of everything wrong with politicians and a beacon to the corruption of our government.  She is possibly the only person in this country, with any likelihood of getting elected, that could make Obama look good by comparison.  The fact that she is not in prison is an affront to everything our country stands for.  The fact that she’s actually a nominee for president is unimaginable.  The fact that there are people who genuinely think she is a good candidate… is a thing of nightmares.  It keeps me up at night.  I would sooner light myself on fire than even contemplate voting for her.

Yet, all I keep hearing about her is “at least she’s not Trump”.  That’s the ONLY redeeming quality anyone seems to be able to come up with.  And all of her negative qualities?  Why, they just get completely dismissed with those words again – at least she’s not Trump.

It seems as though NOTHING else about her matters to the general populous (at least within the progressive/liberal sect).  It doesn’t matter how many FELONIES she commits.  It doesn’t matter that she buys and threatens her way out of getting tried for any of these illegal and even TREASONOUS acts.  It doesn’t matter that there is PROOF.  Because, at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that she mishandled CONFIDENTIAL information of NATIONAL SECURITY.  It doesn’t matter that she destroyed the evidence to hide her crimes and evade prosecution.  It doesn’t matter that she’s repeatedly been caught in lies about the content of those emails.  It doesn’t matter that more and more incriminating evidence about her private server/email is coming to light on almost a daily basis (with her story changing EVERY time).

It doesn’t matter that the FBI is willing to ADMIT to the public that: “From the group of 30,000 e-mails returned to the State Department, 110 e-mails in 52 e-mail chains have been determined by the owning agency to contain classified information at the time they were sent or received. Eight of those chains contained information that was Top Secret at the time they were sent; 36 chains contained Secret information at the time; and eight contained Confidential information,  which is the lowest level of classification. Separate from those, about 2,000 additional e-mails were “up-classified” to make them Confidential; the information in those had not been classified at the time the e-mails were sent.”  (From the Statement by FBI Director James B. Comey)

It doesn’t matter that EVERY other person who has ever mishandled classified information has, AT THE VERY LEAST, lost their security clearance (which would disqualify her from running for president).  It doesn’t matter that the majority of people who have mishandled classified information, even accidentally, not only lost their security clearance – they went to PRISON.  It doesn’t matter that the ONLY reason she is not one of those people, is she has the money and power to get away with it.

It doesn’t matter that this “best case scenario” that she was able to buy or threaten out of the FBI (where she got to keep her security clearance and avoid prosecution), STILL said to the American people that: “…  there is evidence that they were extremely careless in their handling of very sensitive, highly classified information.”   (From the Statement by FBI Director James B. Comey) Because (even if you are gullible enough to believe that conclusion) being “extremely careless with very sensitive, highly classified information” is JUST what you want in a president… At least as long as they’re not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that it was proven she has culpability in the deaths of our troops at Benghazi.  It doesn’t matter that she never apologized for it; to us or the families of the victims.  It doesn’t matter that she said the reason for this tragedy doesn’t make a difference.  It doesn’t matter that she was involved in the massive cover-up about the incident in order to help Obama get re-elected.  It doesn’t matter that she repeated lied to Congress, the American people, and to the parents of those who lost their lives.  It doesn’t matter that she couldn’t even keep her lies consistent hour by hour and day by day to at least come across as semi-believable… Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that she’s repeatedly lied under oath; the very same crime that got her husband impeached when he was the president.  It doesn’t matter that in his case, he was only 12 Congressional votes shy of being REMOVED from office for his crime – it’s no reason that in Hillary’s case her crime should keep her from TAKING office… Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that even though Hillary claims to be a champion of women, her track history has shown the exact opposite.  It doesn’t matter that while Hillary has repeatedly said “Every survivor of sexual assault deserves to be heard, believed, and supported” – she clearly didn’t mean when her husband was the abuser.

It doesn’t matter that 10 different women have come forward to accuse Bill of rape, sexual assault, or sexual harassment.  It doesn’t matter that Hillary referred to these allegations as “bimbo eruptions” or that in interviews she said these women “would have a lot to answer for”.  It doesn’t matter that she did intensive background checks into these women to find ways to try to discredit their claims.  It doesn’t matter that several of these women even accused her of blackmail to get them to recant.  It doesn’t matter that her actions make her complicit in the sexual abuse of women… Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that she’s bought and paid for.  It doesn’t matter that her political influence, decisions, and favors are for sale to ANYONE in ANY country for ANY reason – no matter HOW harmful or nefarious.   It doesn’t matter that all it takes is a generous donation to the Clinton Foundation or triple the normal rate for a speech from herself or her husband.

It doesn’t matter that simply the act of someone in her position accepting money from foreign governments is unconstitutional and disqualifies her from running for president.  Or at least it WOULD disqualify her, were she not able to buy and threaten her way out of that too.

It doesn’t matter that some of the countries that she accepts exorbitant amounts of money from, violate her every supposed ideal and platform.  Countries that destroy the environment, oppress women, enslave black people, murder homosexuals, and are even connected to terrorist organizations.  It doesn’t matter that many of the favors themselves also violate her supposed ideals and platforms.  It doesn’t matter that many of those favors have negatively affected BILLIONS of people all over the world.  It doesn’t matter that she has even put WEAPONS and NUCLEAR TECHNOLOGY into the hands of our ENEMIES… for the right price.  It’s ok.  We can overlook that…  Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that she is under investigation for FRAUD and funneling money through her charitable organization.  It doesn’t matter that it’s been proven that only 10% of donations to the Clinton Foundation has actually gone towards their intended purpose.  It doesn’t matter that she has basically been taking money out of the hands of people who DESPERATELY need it – all the while begging and swindling the American people into donating MORE to help those poor people… Money that really just goes into her pocket.  But seriously now, why should that matter?  Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter that an absurdly high number of people with incriminating evidence against her, the ones who couldn’t be bought off, died under mysterious circumstances soon after blowing the whistle.  While it hasn’t been proven she was involved, the sheer number of times it’s happened should give some credence to the possibility that she was.  But it’s not worth looking into… Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t matter to that she schemed, plotted, and broke laws in order to ruin Bernie Sanders’ chances at being the Democrat nominee.  It doesn’t matter that if it weren’t for the roll she played in this conspiracy, Bernie had a very real chance of winning the nomination… possibly by a landslide.  It doesn’t matter that Hillary had a great deal of responsibility in ruining his chances for become president.  The first candidate that millennials have EVER gotten excited over and in many cases was the very first person they ever voted for in their life.  It doesn’t matter that she dashed their dreams and destroyed their faith in the system.  It doesn’t matter that despite being a man of great integrity, Bernie Sanders flip-flopped on his stance to endorse Hillary (an act that is highly suspicious and suggests he may have been threatened or coerced) …  Because at least she’s not Trump.

It doesn’t even matter that she’s RACIST.  It doesn’t matter that she has supported and enacted legislature that marginalizes black people and perpetuates the poverty cycle in urban areas.  It doesn’t matter that when Bernie Sanders accused her of being racist during one of their debates, she didn’t even deny it or show any signs the comment upset or offended her.

It doesn’t matter that she referred to young black men as “super-predators” and said “we need to bring them all to heel” (a command used to get dogs to fall in line with their masters).

It doesn’t matter that she said “All Lives Matter” (a phrase widely considered racist and demeaning by the left) in a primarily black church.

It doesn’t matter that she took part in an on stage, scripted joke where the punchline was that Mayor Bill de Blasio was late with his endorsement because he “was running on colored peoples’ time” (the obvious racist connotation being that black people are lazy and slow).

It doesn’t matter that she has casually used the phrase “off the reservation” (a wildly offensive term that references the prison camps, created by the US government in the 19th century, known as “reservations” that Native American’s were not permitted to step foot off of without the permission of their white captors) to describe both Donald Trump and other difficult and controlling men she has had to deal with.

It doesn’t matter that she called Paul Fray a “fucking Jew bastard”.

It doesn’t matter that she has publicly made many other racist statements that are significantly WORSE than anything Trump has EVER said…  Because at least she’s not Trump.  (Go Figure.)

But no one wants to hear about all that.  And when forced to hear it, people are very quick to write it off as “conspiracy theory nonsense”, even though a quick internet search PROVES every single thing I’ve mentioned.  No one wants to know the TRUTH about her.  Because once you know the truth, it makes it REALLY hard to keep parroting “at least she’s not Trump”.

Keep in mind, everything I have mentioned is just SOME of the ILLEGAL and TREASONOUS acts that *I* know she has been involved in.  Who knows how many things have yet to come to light or how much worse those things might be.  I’m not going to bother arguing all the reasons I hate her over her policies, platforms, “achievements”, and beliefs – because they are matters of opinion and not FACTS.

I’m sure a lot of you want to fire back with a whole host of reasons why I should hate Trump and he shouldn’t be president.  Blah blah blah.  And blah blah blah.  Some of it may be completely true, some of it may be inaccurate, some of it may be matters of opinion.  But I’m not going to agree with nor try to refute anything you have to say about him – because, as I stated in my opening sentence: I DON’T WANT TRUMP TO BE PRESIDENT!  So, I don’t need to debate his merits.  There’s really only one thing I need to say in Trump’s defense: none of his negative qualities involve an act of treason or something that would disqualify him from running for president.  So if Trump does get elected as our next president, I will scream from the rooftops: AT LEAST HE’S NOT HILLARY!

Transgender Policies and Practices “Guidance” Letter to Schools

Obama has really outdone himself this time.  I think this just might be the single worst act in his reign of terror against our country.  Even *I* didn’t expect him to be capable of this level great wrong.  No matter what side of the transgendered bathroom debate you are on, you SHOULD be outraged by this.

To take it upon himself to ORDER every school in this country to grant their under-age students access to the restroom AND locker room/shower of their choice… or else he will STEAL their federal funding –  right out of the hands of all the CHIDLREN that money was allotted for.  To use OUR children as PAWNS in his real life game of chess.  To threaten to steal our children’s EDUCATION and FUTURE from them as a method of strong-arming the adults to conform to HIS morality.  He may as well have ordered the ENTIRE WORLD for all the right he has to make his demands.  And then he has the gall to mock us by calling his demands “guidance”.

It’s wrong on so many different levels that I scarcely know how to begin expressing it.  I feel like my insides could explode just thinking about it.  And ANYONE who feels good about this “guidance” letter… either hasn’t taken the time to actually THINK about its implications or has something SEVERERLY wrong with them.

I suppose point number one is simply that there is NO cause so noble that it is justified in being achieved through totalitarian means.  Threatening to steal one person’s rights to gain rights for another does wrong to BOTH.  We have a system of government that is designed to speak for THE PEOPLE – safeguarded by using MANY DIFFERENT elected representatives and tiers of representatives, who speak for us by deciding all laws with a MAJORITY ruling.  They answer to us, not the other way around.  It’s what keeps change moving at the speed fitting with society’s evolution.  And it’s what keeps this country from becoming a dictatorship. 

Skipping that process robs you of the most precious thing you have as an American – your VOICE.  Regardless of which side of the debate you are on, your opinion was never even considered.  Your vote was worthless… thrown into the trash without even being looked at.  The OPPOSITE of Democracy.

You could try to throw (the wildly unconstitutional) “Executive Order” clause at me… but what you may not realize is that this is NOT an Executive Order.  It’s just “guidance” –  merely a suggestion.  A suggestion with a BIG threat behind not being taken.  And it’s NOT a threat of proper legal action through our judicial system for breaking a law… noooo, that would be justifiable.  It’s a threat of the GOVERNMENT breaking the law to victimize YOU if you don’t comply.  Sounds a bit like the Mafia extorting money out of you for “protection” don’t ya think? 

But you might not care about any of that.  You might just be thrilled that you got what you wanted… THIS time.  But how would you feel if those same methods of “leadership” were applied to causes you DON’T agree with?

There is a VERY good chance that after the next election President TRUMP will be our Commander-in-chief.  If you are happy about this “guidance” letter, I suspect you DETESTE Donald Trump and everything he stands for.  So tell me… how would you feel if HE forced his morality upon you and your children under threat for disobedience?  Would it still be ok then?  Because you can’t pick and choose.  If you think it would be wrong for Trump to do it in the future, then you must acknowledge that it IS wrong for Obama to do it now.

Many people are trying to justify this “guidance” letter as merely enforcing Title VII.  I’m seeing “Title VII” get tossed around the internet like a catchphrase that means “I’m right and you’re a bigot”.  Obviously, those people have NO IDEA what Title VII entails (they probably don’t even know what document it’s from).

Title VII of Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits discrimination by covered EMPLOYERS on the basis of race, color, religion, sex or national origin. 

Derf! *FACEPALM*

So anyway, I suspect what they WOULD have said (if they had bothered to educate themselves before speaking so authoritatively on the subject) is Title IX – which says that “No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving federal financial assistance.”

But let’s be clear on this – it says NOTHING about schoolchildren with penises having the protected legal right to GET NAKED and SHOWER WITH schoolchildren with vaginas (or vice versa). 

So long as transgendered students are not being denied their right to get an education or participate in school activities, simply because they are transgendered, Title IX is NOT being violated.

And if Title IX is not being violated, then that makes this “guidance” letter ENTIRELY NEW GROUND!  Which means that ENTIRELY NEW LEGISLATURE must be passed through the PROPER CHANNELS before anything can be ENFORCED.

Now that’s we’ve established that no government entity has the right to make such a demand without voting on new legislature… How we talk about why we SHOULDN’T pass this sort of legislature, ok?

YES, transgendered people should be able to use whichever RESTROOM they are the most comfortable using – I honestly don’t understand how that doesn’t go without saying.  It’s still PRIVATE.  You have no idea what genitals someone has beneath their clothing unless YOU behave in an inappropriate and unlawful manner and PEAK over/under the stall at them.  No one is getting hurt by them using the facilities for their intended purpose.  But THEY just might get SEVERLY hurt (by bigoted people) if forced to use what is OBVIOUSLY not the appropriate restroom for them.  Debate won, get over it.

But this “guidance” letter isn’t just about restrooms, it’s also about shared locker rooms and showers.  What’s wrong with that (only and idiot would ask)?

If someone exposes their genitals to you without solicitation, it’s known as “indecent exposure” and it’s a FEDERAL CRIME that will land them on the sex offenders registry.  Even though that person didn’t lay a hand on anyone, they victimized the person/people they exposed themselves to.  They made that person or group of people feel uncomfortable, powerless, and VIOLATED.  Because in our society, genitalia are considered “private parts” – only to be seen/shown when it is EXPECTED and WANTED.  So anytime it is UN-expected or UN-wanted, it is psychologically damaging. 

So… if it’s wrong when someone who is NOT transgendered forces you to see their genitalia… why on earth would it be ok for people who ARE transgendered to do it?

Before you even THINK about saying there’s no “force” in this scenario, let me remind you that you are REQUIRED BY LAW to attend school and GOVERNMENTAL education standards REQUIRE you to take gym class as part of the curriculum.  Which means, since the issuance of that letter – the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT IS REQUIRING YOUR UNDER-AGE CHILDREN TO GET NAKED IN FRONT OF, AND SEE NAKED, OTHER CHILDREN WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER’S GENITALIA (or else no education for ANYONE – INCLUDING the transgendered students).

If you are the sort of hypocritical asshole who thinks that ONLY minorities have rights, you probably want to argue with me right now by telling me that in a locker room/shower setting, exposing your genitalia IS expected.  Everyone else there is getting naked, why are you singling out the transgendered people – you transphobic monster?!

Well, if locker rooms and showers weren’t segregated by gender – you might have a point.  But they ARE segregated by gender.  Which means you EXPECT everyone else around you to have the SAME genitalia as yourself.  And you are depending on that for comfort in the extremely uncomfortable position of shared nudity in these settings.  Otherwise, there’s no point to segregate them AT ALL.  There should just be ONE locker room and ONE shower that ALL students share, regardless of gender OR gender identity.  (Would you be ok with that?  Keep in mind that would involve transgendered students suffering the discomfort of changing and showering with people who are their BIRTH gender!)

Offering transgendered students a PRIVATE changing and shower facility is the OBVIOUS solution to this situation – yet it has REPEATEDLY been rejected and turned into high powered legal battles.  Why?  Because it MIGHT make some of the 0.03% of students that are transgendered FEEL bad.  Fuck how the rest of the students feel, only the feelings of minorities matter… at least that is what Obama, his administration, and most of the Democrat Party seem to think.

In the locker room/shower setting, if someone takes off their clothing and they DON’T have the same genitalia as what’s marked on the door – it is EVERY BIT as unexpected and unwanted as some stranger flashing you in the park.  And now they just saw YOU naked too, but you didn’t consent to that!  Everyone who saw you was SUPPOSED to have all the same parts!  It’s a double-whammy to your psyche.  Their lack of malicious intent does nothing to prevent you from FEELING violated.  In fact, you may feel even MORE violated since if you express your feelings, instead of being treated with sympathy, people act like there is something wrong with you.  (I imagine that it’s a little bit like a less extreme version of how any woman who was raped by her husband, before the law recognized that a woman CAN be raped by her husband, must have felt…)

But a penis or vagina don’t look any less like a penis or vagina just because of how the person it’s connected to feels on the inside.  As long as you keep it COVERED, it’s NOBODY else’s business which you have.  But if you’re going to EXPOSE it, you’ve just MADE it the business of everyone around you.  So unless EVERYONE in the room FREELY gives their permission otherwise, exposed genitals need to match the sign on the door.  Pretty simple and easy to follow.  And most importantly, FAIR.  For EVERYONE. 

Fair… for… everyone?  I know, what a novel concept?  One that is apparently far too evolved and progressive for our society to wrap its head around.

Honestly, I have SO MANY more points still to make on this topic, but writing this is EXHAUSTING.  If I haven’t successfully made my case to you from what I have already said… quite frankly, you are too stupid and closed-minded to EVER see this rationally.  Talking to you would be a waste of everyone’s time & energy – you should just go fuck yourself.

Is the World Black and White? Or are there Shades of Gray?

Recently I did something I thought I would never do… I allowed the cruel words of a complete stranger to get under my skin.  I allowed them to wound me.  To cause me to question myself (for a minute or two).

Normally, I only concern myself with the opinions of people who matter to me – those who I love and/or respect.  All other opinions just roll off my back…. Normally.

Something was different the night this happened.  Something about this opinion just wouldn’t be ignored.

Perhaps I have just been more sensitive lately, with some of the recent events in my life (that I won’t go into now).  Or perhaps so much time separating myself from harmful people caused my emotional calluses to soften.  Or perhaps it was just meant to be that I have this experience.  That I learn from it.

The words weren’t really about me, you must understand.  The person who wrote them never met me and did not have me in mind.  She was merely expressing her thoughts about a group of people that I am included within.  You see, in this woman’s world – because I can check a certain box off next to my name, I have no empathy and am not capable of feeling love – oh, and I am an INSECT.  (There are only two kinds of people empaths and insects, didn’t you know that?  Yeah, it was news to me as well.)

This person believes “the world really is black and white” so therefore I am EXACTLY the same as a PSYCHOPATH.  To her, just by existing, I am as harmful as a serial killer.  Just by existing, I may as well be skinning people in my basement. (A touch of hyperbole here, but most deserving of it, I assure you.)

Why?  Because: “Call it by a name; narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, bipolar, even autistic. All disorders lacking empathy. Cluster “B” personalities. They can not love. On the other end there is depression, anxiety, stress… All disorders felt by those who have empathy and usually as a result of dealing with a non-empathetic person.” [I will NOT link to the original source, as this person does not deserve your attention.]

(Should I mention the irony that she thinks people with Cluster “B” Personality Disorders are insects when one of those disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder, is identified as having “extreme black and white thinking”?  Of course, this same person ALSO went on to say that spreading hate about someone different than themselves makes them an insect – so there seems to be A LOT of projection at work here.)

To be perfectly honest, as I was first reading her blog I didn’t think she was just the worthless human being she clearly is (perhaps I suffered a head wound).  I innocently thought she was just miseducated.  After all, some of the disorders on her list CAN present with a lack of empathy or difficultly recognizing emotions in others.  Perhaps she just misunderstood what that meant.  Most people who haven’t dealt with mental illness first hand are completely clueless about it.

For a bit there, I foolishly thought I could actually educate her and make the world a slightly better place.  (Maybe that has a lot to do with why I allowed her words to have such a strong effect on me.)  I mean, not EVERYTHING she said was so off-base.  Such as the following:

“Wars should not be about religion, politics nor race. None of those things really matter. What does matter, is being human and helping one another.”

But then I started to read some of the upset comments people had left her…. And her responses back.  The things she said to the parents of autistic children were just plain DERANGED.  She told them their children didn’t really love them, that they were just convincing themselves that they did to make themselves feel better, and that the PARENTS were SPREADING HATE by ENABLING their children!

Logically I knew nothing I had to say would make any difference either, so don’t know why I bothered.  But I couldn’t live with myself if I said nothing.  So I left a comment of my own.

“The only way to see the world in black and white, is to lack empathy yourself. Those who possess empathy have the ability to see the shades of gray created by trying to understand another human being’s perspective. Not everyone feels things the same or reacts to things the same, and you can never know what goes on inside them. But if you have empathy, you try to. If you don’t try to, you don’t have empathy.

‘Any person who spreads hate about someone different than them, you can almost automatically assume that person is an insect.’

The people who suffer from the disorders you mentioned are different from you, and rather than try to understand them you have made things easier for yourself by writing them off. You’ve manufactured justification so there is no need to try to understand them by turning them into an “insect”. And in this post, you are telling others to do so as well – and that is most certainly spreading hate.”

I felt good about my comment.  Very good.  But somehow my cloud still lingered.  Her words of hate still clawed at my soul.  This woman is the embodiment of the fears of stigma that every person with a mental illness has in their heart when it comes to people “finding out”.   I thought she was just the bogeyman.  (i.e. I was scared of people feeling the way she does, but never actually BELIEVED that educated people in this day and age really did.)

Thankfully, she responded back to me.  Because her response was enough to finally knock some sense into me and help me to stop caring about her opinion.

Her reply: “Those who see “grey”and feel empathy are enablers. The only thing more dangerous than an insect is an empathy driven person tricked into enabling an insect.”

Sooo… what you’re saying is… the only thing worse than NOT feeling empathy… is actually FEELING empathy???  I was actually foolish enough to allow THIS person’s words upset me?  Shit, now I’m embarrassed as hell.  But like I said earlier, perhaps I was MEANT to have this experience.  Because retrospectively, I feel like it was profoundly important.

Even after I stopped allowing myself to be hurt by it, the experience stayed on my mind all night and all day.  It’s ironic – being told I was not capable of feeling empathy just opened me up to a new level of empathy when it comes to how it feels to be discriminated against.

Here’s the thing – I have been discriminated against plenty of times in my life for various things (as has EVERYONE at some point). For my gender, my age, my appearance, my social status, my sexuality, and of course my mental illness. The list goes on.

Sometimes this discrimination is not even worth discussion, because it’s just the opinion of some asshole on the street. Sometimes it’s more dangerous and has kept me from getting jobs or promotions that I deserved or otherwise impacted my ability to live my life the way I deserve to.

But this… this was the first time I ever experienced discrimination that made me feel SUB-HUMAN. The difference between someone assuming you aren’t as good as they are because of something you cannot control versus someone assuming you aren’t the same SPECIES as they are and are therefore INCAPABLE of feeling the same emotions as they do. That you are completely wiped out as being A PERSON.

I didn’t realize this level of discrimination still existed in the First World.  But it’s just a small sliver of what Black people had to endure during slavery and segregation, or Jews during the Holocaust, and many other groups in different times and cultures.  Except not just from one random asshole – from society as a whole. From the LAW and respected, educated people.

This has always been some of the darkest parts of humanity, and I have always had a very soft spot for the people who endured it and a hatred of the people who enacted it. But I now feel like I can better put myself in their shoes and imagine their pain. It physically hurts. I’ve had to stop myself from publically crying. (Must be a fluke though, since people with Bipolar Disorder can’t feel empathy or love.)

So thank you, random bitch on the internet.  Your hatred just helped to make me a slightly better and more understanding person.

The Batman Shooter Conspiracy

Ok… I am a bit confused by the whole “Batman Shooter Conspiracy” theory.  Correction – I am a bit confused about the reasons some people are citing as proof of a conspiracy.

I certainly don’t doubt the possibility of a conspiracy existing here.  Nor do I doubt our government’s willingness to create such a conspiracy in an attempt to use fear to convince the general public to hand over their Constitutional rights (it certainly wouldn’t be the first time).

The thing that I am hung up on… is questioning the mental faculties of whoever put together this cute little meme:

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So… let’s just start by discussing the question raised in frame one.

First of all, before even getting into specifics about the ACTUAL photos – I just want to answer the surface question “How many people have one ear stick out that much more than the other ear?”  Frankly, A LOT of people do.  NO human being is symmetrical and it is actually very common to have one ear noticeably stick out more than the other.  That’s pretty much common knowledge.  I personally know several people whose ears don’t match.  I also know people whose feet are each a different shoe size.  I even know full grown adults who are less than 4 feet tall.  Shit, while we’re discussing human physical imperfections, I’ve even seen the skeletons of conjoined twins.

Why would you ask such an ignorant question in a meme where you are trying to convince people of a conspiracy?!  If YOU don’t know what you are talking about, what reason do other people have to even consider your ideas?  You just lost the majority of reasonable, educated people before you really even started; simply by asking that question.

Now, as far as the specifics about the ACTUAL photos… The photo on the left is taken at a straight on angle and for this reason the left and right ear look pretty close to a mirror image of each other.  However, in the photo on the right, the subject has their head turned slightly.  For this reason, the ears are NOT mirror images of each other.  That being the case, why would you expect the two different photos to match each other in a way the photo on the right doesn’t even match itself?

Ironically, the ear in the photo on the right is closer to being a mirror image to the ear from the photo on the left than it is to itself.  Oops!

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As for the noses… the claim that they are “totally different” is a very bold one.  And the claim that the nose is “much longer and narrow on imposter” is totally untrue.  If we compare the BRIDGE of the noses, we will see they are identical.  If we compare the LENGTH of the noses, we will see they are a perfect match.  If we compare the TIPS of the noses, they are again spot on.  In fact, the ONLY difference we see between the noses is the amount of nostril flair.  And if you change the crop job on the nose comparison to exclude the nostrils… we suddenly have a totally different impression ENTIRELY.  They may as well be the same picture.  Oops, again!

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Why then, you may ask, is the amount of nostril flair so different if these are really both pictures of the same person?

It’s a little thing called “facial expression”, and it plays an extremely strong roll in how we all look (that’s the reason why we sometimes hate certain pictures of ourselves yet love others).

In the first picture the subject has a VERY wide smile and in the second about as little facial expression as possible.  Since I don’t feel like using pictures of myself as an example on this blog, I am going to ask you to use yourself as the example.  Look at yourself in the mirror and, keeping your lips closed; smile wide (like in the photo on the left).  You will notice that your nostrils flair, your cheeks lift up, and your eyes squint.  Now drop ALL expression from your face (like in the photo on the right).  Shocking, isn’t it?  Oops, there goes your last point!

Are you still unconvinced?  Do you still need more examples?  How about this – how about we add a third picture to the equation.  One where James Holmes is posed somewhere in between the first two.  As it just so happens, his yearbook photo is just such a pose.  (And also happens to be a very easy picture to validate as the “real” James Holmes.)

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Take note that he is smiling, but not as widely as in the first picture, and the amount of nostril flair falls in between the other two photos.  Also, his head is turned slightly in the picture and if you compare THIS ear to the ear in the picture on the right, they are now a perfect match.

It would be hard to find a photo more ideal to bridge the gaps, so to speak, between the picture on the left and the picture on the right.  If you cover the picture on the right with your hand, the picture on the left and the picture in the middle are OBVIOUSLY the same person.  And if you cover the picture on the left with your hand, you have the same result comparing the picture on the right and the picture in the middle.

And now, just for fun, try these on for size!

If we go back to the original two pictures and clip out the inner tips of the eyes and the bridge of the nose from the picture on the left and drop in on top of the picture on the right… OH SHIT, they line up perfectly!  And if we stack the chins on top of each other…WHOA, it looks like the same picture!!

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Honesty, I am surprised whoever put that meme together didn’t question the fact that his hair was longer and dyed a different color.  I guess when it comes to that difference, whoever put this meme together was actually smart enough, *gasp*, to realize the picture on the left is NOT his mug shot and significant time elapsed in between when they were taken.

My point is… there may very well be a conspiracy going on here – who the hell knows?   I’m not going to even try to get into that one.  But if there IS a conspiracy, it has NOTHING to do with an “imposter” James Holmes.  And anyone who thinks otherwise is a JACKASS.

The Barbie Doll with a Hole in Her Head…

And now it’s time for…. bitching about random strangers on the internet!  Is it still mean and uncalled for if you don’t say it to them and you don’t say who it’s about?

Ooooooooookay… yeah.  You’re a liar.  And it took me less than a minute to catch you.

First of all, you are clearly not sensitive about your weight.  Anyone who was sensitive about their weight would not post HUNDREDS of pictures of themselves making sexy poses in skimpy outfits.  You LOVE your body and you LOVE to flaunt it.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  So, why pretend differently?

Are you fishing for compliments?   Do you thrive on people telling you how good looking you are?  Are you one of those people who only feel self worth if other people are envious of you and showering you with praise?  And is your need for this so great, that you are compelled to tell obvious lies and insult yourself to guilt people into obliging you?

Or is it an offensive move?  Have you had a lot of people accuse you of being anorexic and saying rude things like “eat a sandwich”?  Maybe you get accused of being conceited and narcissistic a lot?  Even called a slut or a whore and told to “put on some clothes”?  And you think you can stop their insults in their tracks by calling medical disorder and low self esteem about it?

Whatever your reason, you’re still being FAKE.  And THAT is what disgusts me, not your narcissism, outfits or body.

Second of all… you have an almost identical body type to someone I know, who is very thin (in my opinion, too thin).  Yet you are claiming to be an inch taller and more than 20 pounds lighter than this person.  That is impossible unless you surgically replaced all your bones with plastic.

Why lie about this?  If you were the height and weight you claim, you would be in a hospital bed and near death from malnourishment.  And there’s nothing sexy about that!

I guess the internet just makes it too easy for people to lie.  And most people seem to have an easy enough time lying without the added anonymity the internet provides.