Transgender Policies and Practices “Guidance” Letter to Schools

Obama has really outdone himself this time.  I think this just might be the single worst act in his reign of terror against our country.  Even *I* didn’t expect him to be capable of this level great wrong.  No matter what side of the transgendered bathroom debate you are on, you SHOULD be outraged by this.

To take it upon himself to ORDER every school in this country to grant their under-age students access to the restroom AND locker room/shower of their choice… or else he will STEAL their federal funding –  right out of the hands of all the CHIDLREN that money was allotted for.  To use OUR children as PAWNS in his real life game of chess.  To threaten to steal our children’s EDUCATION and FUTURE from them as a method of strong-arming the adults to conform to HIS morality.  He may as well have ordered the ENTIRE WORLD for all the right he has to make his demands.  And then he has the gall to mock us by calling his demands “guidance”.

It’s wrong on so many different levels that I scarcely know how to begin expressing it.  I feel like my insides could explode just thinking about it.  And ANYONE who feels good about this “guidance” letter… either hasn’t taken the time to actually THINK about its implications or has something SEVERERLY wrong with them.

I suppose point number one is simply that there is NO cause so noble that it is justified in being achieved through totalitarian means.  Threatening to steal one person’s rights to gain rights for another does wrong to BOTH.  We have a system of government that is designed to speak for THE PEOPLE – safeguarded by using MANY DIFFERENT elected representatives and tiers of representatives, who speak for us by deciding all laws with a MAJORITY ruling.  They answer to us, not the other way around.  It’s what keeps change moving at the speed fitting with society’s evolution.  And it’s what keeps this country from becoming a dictatorship. 

Skipping that process robs you of the most precious thing you have as an American – your VOICE.  Regardless of which side of the debate you are on, your opinion was never even considered.  Your vote was worthless… thrown into the trash without even being looked at.  The OPPOSITE of Democracy.

You could try to throw (the wildly unconstitutional) “Executive Order” clause at me… but what you may not realize is that this is NOT an Executive Order.  It’s just “guidance” –  merely a suggestion.  A suggestion with a BIG threat behind not being taken.  And it’s NOT a threat of proper legal action through our judicial system for breaking a law… noooo, that would be justifiable.  It’s a threat of the GOVERNMENT breaking the law to victimize YOU if you don’t comply.  Sounds a bit like the Mafia extorting money out of you for “protection” don’t ya think? 

But you might not care about any of that.  You might just be thrilled that you got what you wanted… THIS time.  But how would you feel if those same methods of “leadership” were applied to causes you DON’T agree with?

There is a VERY good chance that after the next election President TRUMP will be our Commander-in-chief.  If you are happy about this “guidance” letter, I suspect you DETESTE Donald Trump and everything he stands for.  So tell me… how would you feel if HE forced his morality upon you and your children under threat for disobedience?  Would it still be ok then?  Because you can’t pick and choose.  If you think it would be wrong for Trump to do it in the future, then you must acknowledge that it IS wrong for Obama to do it now.

Many people are trying to justify this “guidance” letter as merely enforcing Title VII.  I’m seeing “Title VII” get tossed around the internet like a catchphrase that means “I’m right and you’re a bigot”.  Obviously, those people have NO IDEA what Title VII entails (they probably don’t even know what document it’s from).

Title VII of Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits discrimination by covered EMPLOYERS on the basis of race, color, religion, sex or national origin. 

Derf! *FACEPALM*

So anyway, I suspect what they WOULD have said (if they had bothered to educate themselves before speaking so authoritatively on the subject) is Title IX – which says that “No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving federal financial assistance.”

But let’s be clear on this – it says NOTHING about schoolchildren with penises having the protected legal right to GET NAKED and SHOWER WITH schoolchildren with vaginas (or vice versa). 

So long as transgendered students are not being denied their right to get an education or participate in school activities, simply because they are transgendered, Title IX is NOT being violated.

And if Title IX is not being violated, then that makes this “guidance” letter ENTIRELY NEW GROUND!  Which means that ENTIRELY NEW LEGISLATURE must be passed through the PROPER CHANNELS before anything can be ENFORCED.

Now that’s we’ve established that no government entity has the right to make such a demand without voting on new legislature… How we talk about why we SHOULDN’T pass this sort of legislature, ok?

YES, transgendered people should be able to use whichever RESTROOM they are the most comfortable using – I honestly don’t understand how that doesn’t go without saying.  It’s still PRIVATE.  You have no idea what genitals someone has beneath their clothing unless YOU behave in an inappropriate and unlawful manner and PEAK over/under the stall at them.  No one is getting hurt by them using the facilities for their intended purpose.  But THEY just might get SEVERLY hurt (by bigoted people) if forced to use what is OBVIOUSLY not the appropriate restroom for them.  Debate won, get over it.

But this “guidance” letter isn’t just about restrooms, it’s also about shared locker rooms and showers.  What’s wrong with that (only and idiot would ask)?

If someone exposes their genitals to you without solicitation, it’s known as “indecent exposure” and it’s a FEDERAL CRIME that will land them on the sex offenders registry.  Even though that person didn’t lay a hand on anyone, they victimized the person/people they exposed themselves to.  They made that person or group of people feel uncomfortable, powerless, and VIOLATED.  Because in our society, genitalia are considered “private parts” – only to be seen/shown when it is EXPECTED and WANTED.  So anytime it is UN-expected or UN-wanted, it is psychologically damaging. 

So… if it’s wrong when someone who is NOT transgendered forces you to see their genitalia… why on earth would it be ok for people who ARE transgendered to do it?

Before you even THINK about saying there’s no “force” in this scenario, let me remind you that you are REQUIRED BY LAW to attend school and GOVERNMENTAL education standards REQUIRE you to take gym class as part of the curriculum.  Which means, since the issuance of that letter – the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT IS REQUIRING YOUR UNDER-AGE CHILDREN TO GET NAKED IN FRONT OF, AND SEE NAKED, OTHER CHILDREN WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER’S GENITALIA (or else no education for ANYONE – INCLUDING the transgendered students).

If you are the sort of hypocritical asshole who thinks that ONLY minorities have rights, you probably want to argue with me right now by telling me that in a locker room/shower setting, exposing your genitalia IS expected.  Everyone else there is getting naked, why are you singling out the transgendered people – you transphobic monster?!

Well, if locker rooms and showers weren’t segregated by gender – you might have a point.  But they ARE segregated by gender.  Which means you EXPECT everyone else around you to have the SAME genitalia as yourself.  And you are depending on that for comfort in the extremely uncomfortable position of shared nudity in these settings.  Otherwise, there’s no point to segregate them AT ALL.  There should just be ONE locker room and ONE shower that ALL students share, regardless of gender OR gender identity.  (Would you be ok with that?  Keep in mind that would involve transgendered students suffering the discomfort of changing and showering with people who are their BIRTH gender!)

Offering transgendered students a PRIVATE changing and shower facility is the OBVIOUS solution to this situation – yet it has REPEATEDLY been rejected and turned into high powered legal battles.  Why?  Because it MIGHT make some of the 0.03% of students that are transgendered FEEL bad.  Fuck how the rest of the students feel, only the feelings of minorities matter… at least that is what Obama, his administration, and most of the Democrat Party seem to think.

In the locker room/shower setting, if someone takes off their clothing and they DON’T have the same genitalia as what’s marked on the door – it is EVERY BIT as unexpected and unwanted as some stranger flashing you in the park.  And now they just saw YOU naked too, but you didn’t consent to that!  Everyone who saw you was SUPPOSED to have all the same parts!  It’s a double-whammy to your psyche.  Their lack of malicious intent does nothing to prevent you from FEELING violated.  In fact, you may feel even MORE violated since if you express your feelings, instead of being treated with sympathy, people act like there is something wrong with you.  (I imagine that it’s a little bit like a less extreme version of how any woman who was raped by her husband, before the law recognized that a woman CAN be raped by her husband, must have felt…)

But a penis or vagina don’t look any less like a penis or vagina just because of how the person it’s connected to feels on the inside.  As long as you keep it COVERED, it’s NOBODY else’s business which you have.  But if you’re going to EXPOSE it, you’ve just MADE it the business of everyone around you.  So unless EVERYONE in the room FREELY gives their permission otherwise, exposed genitals need to match the sign on the door.  Pretty simple and easy to follow.  And most importantly, FAIR.  For EVERYONE. 

Fair… for… everyone?  I know, what a novel concept?  One that is apparently far too evolved and progressive for our society to wrap its head around.

Honestly, I have SO MANY more points still to make on this topic, but writing this is EXHAUSTING.  If I haven’t successfully made my case to you from what I have already said… quite frankly, you are too stupid and closed-minded to EVER see this rationally.  Talking to you would be a waste of everyone’s time & energy – you should just go fuck yourself.

Which Restroom Should I Use? (the transgendered debate)

There has been A LOT of controversy lately over which restroom a transgendered person should be using.  As with most of these kind of social debates, I feel like BOTH sides of the argument are getting it wrong (which is usually a good sign that I am on the right track).

I want to start by pointing out how interesting it is that until a few years ago, this issue was barely a blip on people’s radar and now it’s one of the most hot button topics in the country.  What makes it so interesting is the fact that being transgendered is NOT a new phenomenon.  Nor is it new for a transgendered person to use the restroom assigned for the gender they identify as.  The only thing that’s really changed is the general public’s awareness about it – and THAT is extremely telling.

It tells me that most people don’t have any problem using the restroom next to a transgendered person whose genitals don’t match the sign on the door – they have a problem with KNOWING about it.  (Let that really sink in.)

The honest truth in this situation is that it doesn’t matter what genitals you have OR what gender you identify as; because the rest of society can’t SEE either.  The only thing that matters is what others can see: your OUTWARD APPEARANCE.

I feel like this is a vital point that all of the people who are opposed to sharing the restrooms are completely overlooking.

If you are someone who feels uncomfortable with sharing the restroom with a person whose genitals are different from your own, are you REALLY going to feel comfortable with sharing the restroom with a person who in EVERY way that you can SEE looks and acts like the opposite gender?

What if that person was someone you found extremely attractive?  Maybe earlier that evening you were even checking them out and having a couple naughty fantasies?  Maybe you were even hoping to get their phone number… Until they walked into the same restroom as you and suddenly reality hit home.

Now I bet you are so disgusted you feel physically ill and you are furious with that person because they made you question your sexuality.  And now you have to SHARE the restroom with that person?!  GROSS!  (Never thought about that, did you?  Think that could never happen?  That’s probably because every time it would have, the person used the restroom assigned for the gender you thought they were born as.  Do you really want to open that can of worms?)

If you look like and are living as a woman, then EVERYONE will feel more comfortable if you use the women’s room.  If you look like and are living as a man, then EVERYONE will feel more comfortable if you use the men’s room.  Most of the time the average person won’t even think about it to question it… unless you TALK ABOUT IT!  Because despite what some people think, most trans people AREN’T “obvious”.

It would kind of defeat the point for most of them if they couldn’t fit in and successfully pass as the other gender.  A lot of money, effort, hormone therapy, and expensive surgeries go into transitioning – do you really think so many people would bother if it didn’t work?

Even if the trans person in question is one of the “obvious” ones, you have absolutely no way of knowing if they have surgically changed their genitals WITHOUT invading their privacy by peeking at them – i.e.  BEING A CRIMINAL!!  The VERY same kind of criminal that you are supposedly so worried that this trans person might be.

Not to mention that this so-called “obvious” trans person might not even be trans at all.  There are some naturally very masculine women and feminine men out there who you might really embarrass and hurt if you make an assumption like that.  (You’re that bad guy in that scenario too.)

So it’s obvious that I am PRO trans people using the restroom of the gender they identify with.  So what on Earth was I talking about when I said BOTH sides are getting it wrong?

The problem is OVER-response to “fixing” the situation.  Laws and policies excessively in favor of catering to the transgendered at the expense of the rest of the public.  Instead of making things fair for everyone, we are just changing WHO it’s unfair to.

First of all, in an effort to “avoid offending the transgendered community”, some of the new laws are written to be dangerously vague.  They don’t require that a person being LIVING as the gender of the restroom they wish to use, or even have to dress as that gender.  Whatever gender you feel like that day is the restroom you are welcome to use (as if gender identity was something that flip-flops from day to day – how insulting).

This creates a flawed system that makes it EXTREMELY easy for an individual who is NOT transgendered to have unrestricted access to the opposite gender’s restroom for any number of illicit purposes.  A temptation that some deviant individuals just won’t be able to pass up.  (Not that this is justification to deny law-abiding transgendered people the right to the bathroom they are most comfortable with, only the criminals should be held responsible for their criminal actions – but a lot of this could easily be avoided simply by using more deliberate word choices when writing these laws.)

But even more significant than these deviant individuals taking advantage of the poorly worded laws to invade people’s privacy (or worse) is the FEAR that people have of it happening.  This is a legitimate fear that is deserving of respect and consideration – yet anyone who expresses that fear is subject to being labeled as “transphobic” and becomes a target of ridicule and hate.  How is that fair?  It’s as if people who don’t belong to a minority group are suddenly be treated like they matter less, instead of everyone being treated as equals.

I wish I could say that was the worst of it and the debate ends here, with the adults.  But unfortunately this entire situation has been taken to a level that is downright obscene because children are being dragged into the middle of it – and this is where I start to get extremely heated.

I need to be clear that I do not believe there is ANYTHING morally wrong with being transgendered and I am 100% pro ADULTS who are LIVING as the opposite gender having the right to use the public restroom they are most comfortable with.  A person’s life choices and what is or isn’t inside of their pants isn’t anyone else’s business unless that person chooses to make it someone else’s business.

This is very important to distinguish because I am reading increasingly more disturbing articles involving UNDER AGE CHILDREN where PUBLIC SCHOOLS are taking grossly unfair measures to supposedly protect the rights of their transgendered students, that are really just obliterating the rights of everyone else and are even at times tantamount to sexual assault.  The obvious backlash from this is that it is INCREASING the controversy and hatred many people have towards the transgendered; which isn’t fair to ANYBODY.

Recently, I have read a lot of REAL news stories involving transgendered elementary school students wanting to use the restroom of the gender they identify with… and they all seem to go the same way. The school offers a very reasonable solution – in fact the very same solution I would have offered if I were in their position – the use of an individual gender neutral restroom.

But this is not considered acceptable, as it makes the student “feel like an outcast”. Then the lawyers and the protesters get involved and next thing you know – the child is granted the right to use the shared restroom of the gender they identify with.  Everyone else just has to deal with it or be labeled as some intolerant monster.

But what about all those other kids who are sharing that restroom?  What about how it makes them feel?  What about the lasting effects it has on them to be forced to deal with a situation that is far beyond their capacity to understand?  These are LITTLE KIDS we are talking about, they are having a hard enough time just learning how to share their TOYS!

And just like the laws I mentioned earlier in this blog, in an effort to “avoid offending” anybody, some of the schools have written their policies on the matter to be so open-ended that they are actually harmful.  It’s not just the transgendered student in question being granted these bathroom privileges, ALL of the students are be given the freedom to use the restroom they identify with that day.  With complete freedom to change their mind on any and all subsequent days. Because no little kid would EVER take advantage of that situation just to see what the other gender looks like under their clothes, right?  This is not “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”, because the other students aren’t being given a choice.

How could ANYONE think this was ok? How could anyone think this was the same situation as an adult living as the opposite gender? Why does your elementary school kid even KNOW what a transgendered person is when they haven’t even learned where babies come from yet?!

Any parent who would encourage their prepubescent child to come out as transgendered is doing that child HARM. It’s a form of child abuse.  Both because you are encouraging them to be an outcast and endure ridicule and because you might very well be encouraging them to be something that they AREN’T – which can create a lot of confusion and pain for them later in life when they figure out what they REALLY are.

Don’t get me wrong, when someone is transgendered it is NOT a decision that they make and they very well may have known when they were six that they were different and they almost certainly exhibited outward signs to suggest it or even directly say they want to be the other gender – but that is NOT the same as your six-year-old KNOWING that they are transgendered… because kids who AREN’T transgendered can feel different and show the exact same signs. Kids like to mimic things they see and dress up and play pretend – sometimes it means something, but USUALLY they grow out of it.

Just because your child says they want to be a firefighter when they grow up, doesn’t mean they will still feel that way when they ACTUALLY grow up.  You tell your child they can be anything they want to be when they grow up (and they very well might become a firefighter), but you don’t let them go fight fires now!  Just like you don’t let your young child drive cars or get tattoos or anything else they aren’t mature enough to decide for themselves, so why would you let them decide something as serious as this?!  BE THE ADULT!  (It’s not being closed-minded, it’s being responsible.)

Sadly, this still isn’t the worst of it.  How, right?  How can it possibly get worse?  With the true story about the transgendered teen who doesn’t simply want to use the restroom of the gender they identify with, they want to use the GYM CHANGING ROOM!

You know… I get it. I do. Imagine being that teen. High school is hard enough… and to be transgendered in high school… to be forced to change in front of your genetic gender…. I mean… beyond feeling uncomfortable and enduring teasing, you could even risk being ASSAULTED by the students who don’t want to change with a “freak” (one of the many reasons I would recommend waiting until graduation to come out – but that’s not excusing the violent behavior and a transgendered high school student should still have the RIGHT to come out if they want to – we are no longer talking about little kids).

So the school actually does construction to BUILD the teen their own private changing area and shower. This seems like an amazingly enlightened and fair course of action by the school… but just like in the last story, it wasn’t good enough. It went to court, and they found in favor of the transgendered student and are now FORCING the rest of the students to OPENLY CHANGE CLOTHING AND SHOWER with a person who has the OPPOSITE GENDERS GENITALS.

Ok… just like I got that transgendered student’s plight… I understand the plight of all the other UNDER AGE TEENAGERS who are being FORCED to get naked in front of someone of the opposite biological gender… because you are required by law to go to school and take gym… and it’s a school rule that you have to change your clothing for gym class. This is awkward and uncomfortable enough on its own (such a form of stress than many kids have a tendency to “get sick” on the days that have to take gym just to avoid the experience) – what this school is now requiring of them sounds to me like a form of SEXUAL ASSAULT!  I could honestly see kids dropping out of school or even killing themselves to avoid this horror!

If one person’s “rights” come at the expense of someone else’s rights…. Then THEY AREN’T RIGHTS! EVERYONE disserves EQUAL protection under the law. WHY is this so hard for people to understand?!

It’s an outrage! And if someone like me who is FOR transgendered equality is this upset about it… How the fuck is the person who thinks the transgendered are “immoral freaks” supposed to react?  It only serves to make the divide WORSE.  But then again… that’s the real point, isn’t it?